I can help you, regardless of church size, launch an appropriate single’s ministry at your local church. Below is an article that you may find helpful.
“Single’s Ministry in a Box”
As I meet pastors all over the county and world I ask them this question, “Do you have a good population of singles within your church and if so, how are you using them?” Many times pastors reply, “I’m glad I got a chance to talk with you, I have always wondered just what to do with my singles.”
Did you know that there is no other group within the local church that is able to do more for God’s kingdom and fulfill God’s purposes for the church than Single Adults? What an incredible realization. God desires to use single adults in a big way.
You may ask, “Pastor Clayton, what makes you say this?” The answer is simple. BECAUSE GOD SAYS IT and you know what, GOD DID IT!
You see, when God decided to establish His church and restore His relationship with us, He sent His son Jesus Christ. Now He could have said, “You know, I desire for my son to be married. When He is married, more people will listen to him, repent and believe.” He could have done that. He can do anything, He’s God. But He didn’t. His desire was that His Son remain single while seeking and saving the lost and leading others to repent and believe. And who did God surround His son with? Married people? No, for all we know, according to scripture, they were single. We know that Peter had a mother-in-law and therefore he was married, but the Bible is silent to the marital status of the other disciples. So God sent His son who was single, and surrounded his son with singles…and we are here today as a result of singles. Singles, just like the single adults who are in your local church. Jesus had a purpose, the disciples had a purpose and you know what…Single Adults HAVE A PURPOSE!
Somewhere along the way, it seems that churches began focusing on married adults to meet all of the needs within the local church. Most leadership teams, deacon bodies, committees and other teams are lead and comprised of married adults. Because of this, many single adults receive the non-verbal communication that they are somehow “less than” a married person. In God’s kingdom, we are all made complete not through a union with a spouse but rather a union with Christ. We are complete only because we are joined with the one who is complete.
Single Adults are crucial to fulfilling God’s purpose for the church. There is not one area that can’t benefit from singles being involved. Send this message to your local pastor and get involved. You can make an everlasting difference during this season of singleness.
Most churches across the country are smaller than 300 in average attendance. Knowing that the majority of attenders of the average church are married, that means that the average church has the opportunity to impact a small number of single adults in their local church. The issue is never how many or how big, but how successful? A successful single’s ministry knows where it is going, knows how to get there, and tracks its progress. Many times single’s ministries operate in the land of afterthought, not strategic forethought. Its often times a question of what do we do with our single’s and not one of how can we impact the kingdom by utilizing our single’s.
David and Carolyn are two single adults at a church this size in Dallas. The church is an established church but one that has lost its way over the past few years. It is in a rebuilding phase currently but most of the growth has happened with young married families. There are a few single adults who are coming who need to be cared for. David and Carolyn comprise the entire leadership team and are faced with the challenge of growing the ministry on limited resources and limited time. David works the night shift and Carolyn works during the day time. This makes getting together a challenge yet they still find a way to make it happen because they both know how important this ministry is. Both David and Carolyn liked the direction of the new pastor and the growth of the church. They believe that it is the type of church that can really encourage the hearts of single adults. They saw a need to care for singles and they stepped up to meet that need. Carolyn and David want every single adult who comes through the doors of their church to be connected and cared for and don’t have the budgeted resources to do anything flashy like many of the surrounding church do in the Dallas area.
The pastor at Carolyn and David’s church cares about single adults and often times speaks to the needs and values of single adults from the pulpit. They are able to meet with him directly as needed but at least once a month. He encourages them, helps train them in ministry, and prays with them. While this is a great opportunity and one that many single adult leaders don’t have, it is still limited and growing the ministry isn’t Carolyn and David’s full time job. They both believe that it would be great to have a single’s pastor but know that the resources just aren’t there right now.
This is a common situation around the country. Lay single’s leadership, trying to do the best they can with limited interaction, if any, with the pastor and barely any resources. When I spoke with Carolyn and David, I asked them several questions that I believe, if answered, could really take their single’s ministry to the next level. Many of these questions may seem remedial to you, but I promise you, these questions get overlooked time and again.
1. What is your goal for your single’s ministry?
2. What is your purpose statement?
3. What is your mission?
4. What is the demographic of your city?
5. What is the demographic of your church?
6. What is the demographic of your single’s community?
These are not difficult questions..........
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